Coaching women over 50 about dating, I’m often asked this question… I believe it’s because dating has become an activity we endure, versus one we enjoy. What a pressure cooker this is…ultimately leaving us with the feeling there is no one out there to date. They are dating to mate, rather than dating to date. We look the person up and down and in less than 10 minutes – the time it takes to drink a cup of coffee – we decide whether or not this person is our next spouse or committed partner.Yet there are millions of men and women looking for partners daily, so what’s going on? I can’t begin to tell you the number of times I’ve heard, “I just know whether he’s ‘the one’ within the first 3 minutes of meeting him.” There is no way this is possible.
The other reason dating can make you so miserable is because often you don’t give men a chance unless they meet your standards of perfection. Selector .selector_input_interaction .selector_input. Selector .selector_input_interaction .selector_spinner. Selector .selector_results_container.form_buttons.form_buttons a.form_buttons input[type='submit'].form_buttons .submit_button.form_buttons .submit_button.form_buttons .action_button.hover_menu.hover_menu:before,.hover_menu:after.hover_menu.show_nub:before.hover_menu.show_nub:after.hover_menu.show_nub.white_bg:after.hover_menu .hover_menu_contents.hover_menu.white_bg .hover_menu_contents. I tell all my single girlfriends to give online dating a try. Your inbox will fill with notes from 19-year-olds in the ‘burbs, 40-somethings who find your taste in music “refreshing,” addled idiots writing “id fck u,” and a handful of age-appropriate, nice-looking guys who can string some sentences together and like to cook.It is a sad, soul-crushing place where good guys go to die a slow death by way of ignored messages and empty inboxes.You will peruse profiles and find a few women who aren’t posing in a bathroom with their stomachs exposed.You will part ways, and you will probably, almost certainly, begin again the next day with another “Hey there…” message from the next contender.I tell all my single guy friends to watch out for online dating.Instead of just using physical characteristics as the sole basis for finding someone, think about how you want to feel around a man.Because ultimately, you want to feel happy inside when you’re with the one you finally choose.And that has nothing to do with how he exercises or eats. Tell us in the comments how you want to be treated….topic_pill.topic_pill a.topic_pill:hover a.action_button.action_button:active.action_button:hover.action_button:focus.action_button:hover.action_button:focus .count.action_button:hover .count.action_button:focus .count:before.action_button:hover .count:before.submit_button.submit_button:active.submit_button:hover.submit_button:not(.fake_disabled):hover.submit_button:not(.fake_disabled):focus._type_serif_title_large.js-wf-loaded ._type_serif_title_large.amp-page [email protected] only screen and (min-device-width:320px) and (max-device-width:360px).u-margin-top--lg.u-margin-left--sm.u-flex.u-flex-auto.u-flex-none.bullet.